I do not know if it is just me, but I don’t like it when my boyfriend smokes or drinks. I know that his vices where already there even before he met me and I don’t want to be the girl or woman who changes him.
I know that I have to accept him for who he is and that I need to love him for everything that he is. But I can’t help it, I can’t help it why I feel so hurt and angry and I felt bad every single time that I learned he is into it again. There are times though that I allow him to smoke and drink but there are also times I don’t. It is not that I want to change him, it’s just I care because I know that it is not good for his health.
I know that he is trying to quit smoking and that he also tries to avoid his friends during drinking sprees and I am happy to know that. And yes I sometimes feel guilty that he misses his companions especially during birthday parties and events because I told him not to go to. But what do I need to do? I am such a brat and I don’t know how to explain to him sometimes that he needs to stop smoking and drinking to avoid health issues when he gets old.